While searching for an e-card this morning, I came across one with the three words in this post’s title.
Just have faith.
Then I thought about someone saying these three words to a woman in the darkest days of her Postpartum Mood & Anxiety hell.
I got angry.
Sure, faith is awesomely powerful. It’ll hold you up when you’re struggling, keep you grounded when things are going well. I have no doubt that my own faith carried me through those deep dark days. But if someone had told me to “Just have faith” in the middle of it all, quite frankly, it would have been one of the worst things I could have heard.
But when a person has cancer, diabetes, or a heart attack do we tell them to just have faith? Or to pray harder and everything will be better? Do we tell them to do just that without also encouraging them to see their doctor, take their meds, and go through whatever therapy is set forth whether it be chemo, insulin, diet changes, or lifestyle changes?
Would you do that?
Tell someone with a tumor to “Just have faith” and ignore all that modern medicine has to offer as a chance at survival and remission?
I’m willing to bet you wouldn’t dare.
If you wouldn’t say it to them, don’t you DARE say it to a mother struggling with Postpartum.
Anything else you’d add as something NOT to say to Moms with Postpartum?