A love letter of sorts


Dear #PPDChat Mamas,

I know yesterday was all sorts of hard for some of you.

That it was particularly hard for one of you in particular.

Just as last time, we rallied around you. We loved you. We tried to protect you and keep you safe. We did what friends do when they see a friend struggling. They reach out to anything they can in order to keep the car from crashing. To keep the crisis from escalating. We were not alone in our reaction. You are loved. By so many. You matter. To us. To others. To your children. To life. You.MATTER.

I am sorry if we upset you. But you see, it was out of love. It was out of caring. It was with good intention. I realize these are just words. That they may not change how you feel about what so many of us did together yesterday to SAVE YOUR LIFE.

To those of you who did what you could to save a life, do not place blame on yourself for the outcome. For the reaction. You did the best you could with what you had at the time. You rose above what most would ever do when faced with someone who so clearly stated suicidal intent. You bravely ran toward the crisis screaming STOP, gathering an army along the way.

The reaction? The outcome? Is not yours to own. It is hers and hers alone. You can still love her. You can still care for her. But she must process what happened to her in her own way even if that means walking away from us, walking away from Twitter. She needs to own that, not you. I’m not saying it will be easy. I’m not saying anyone is right or anyone is better. I’m just saying that all of us are only responsible for the behaviours of ourselves, not of others. As long as you know in your heart you did the best you could with what you had at the time and it was with good intention, rest easy. You’re not responsible for the outcome. It’s hard to let go. It’s hard to let someone else own their behaviour when you feel you had a hand in causing it. But right now? Let go. Breathe. Know we have done every thing we possibly can to help. And now? It’s time to breathe. It’s time to let ownership lie where it may.

We’ll still be here should she ever decide to come back. With arms full of love, hearts open and willing, and minds free of judgment. I hope she does come back. In the meantime though, I wish her all the best. I wish her healing, peace of mind, and a stop to the downward spiral she feels stuck in at the moment. I know it’s dark there, we all do. Don’t ever forget you are loved. And don’t EVER forget that YOU.MATTER.

We love you. No matter what.

Love,

Me

New Support Group in Maryland


Please share this with any women you may know in Maryland:

A new support group is starting in Gaithersburg, Maryland!

Starting on August 14th, the group will be held monthy, on the 2nd Thursday of each month, from 6:30 – 7:30pm.

Contact Maryland PSI coordinator Sara Evans at sarajevans@gmail.com, or at 240-401-8045 to register for the group or to learn more.

Grace Award


Grace Award Badge

Darren Bernhardt, of TheStarPhoenix.com is honored for his story, “Child care necessary for support groups,” in which he reports on the loss of child care for a Saskatoon (CA) Postpartum Support Group. Darren’s writing dignifies and honors the journey these moms take as they struggle to overcome such a difficult times in their lives.Thank you Darren, for respecting these families and the program that supports them during this time.

Good News if you live in Springfield, MO!


Some serious kudos to Dana Lewis and Jennifer Stephens for their hard work in this area! So many moms will benefit from this! Keep up the hard work!

 

The Women’s Center is first in the region to offer postpartum depression support group

The birth of a baby is supposed to be a joyous occasion in a woman’s life. The reality is up to 80 percent of new mothers experience feelings of emotional instability, known as ‘Baby Blues” in the first weeks after pregnancy. Up to 20 percent suffer from a more severe form of depression known as postpartum depression.

The Women’s Center at CoxHealth announces the creation of two support groups designed to address topics affecting new mothers, including postpartum depression.

The first, “Mom’s New Groove“, is a series of six educational classes. The initial class in the series will be at 12:30-1:30, Wednesday, June 18 at The Turner Center conference room, 1000 E. Primrose. The classes are ongoing, so women can begin at anytime and continue until attending all six classes, which will be held at the same time and place each week.

“In the entire state of Missouri, there is only one postpartum depression support group, and it is in St. Louis, so there is a huge need in this region,” says Dana Lewis, women’s health educator at The Women’s Center.

Lewis and Jennifer Stephens, a student at Missouri State University, developed the series, which is supervised by health care professionals. Stephens suffered from postpartum depression after the birth of her first child.

“Our biggest goal with this education is to normalize postpartum depression. These classes will help women understand that they are not alone, that they shouldn’t feel bad about themselves for having these feelings and that there is now somewhere to go for help,” says Stephens.

The six classes in the “Mom’s New Groove” series include handling major adjustments in a woman’s life, understanding baby’s needs, learning safety tips, and transitioning back to work. Two classes will focus on postpartum depression. Women will learn the signs of postpartum adjustment disorder, how to cope and how a baby can change relationships. These two classes will be led by Wanda Holloway, a clinician at The Burrell Center.

Women who need additional support dealing with the strain of caring for their new baby will be encouraged to attend the second support group, “Beyond Baby Blues.”  This support group will begin after the first six weeks of “Mom’s New Groove”, and will be led by Wanda Holloway.

For more information, call The Women’s Center, 269-Lady.